• Self-awareness over self-improvement: You are enough, you are inherently worthy and good. You do not need to be better.

  Self-awareness uncovers that good, it removes the junk that blinds you to reality, what you really want, your actual capacities and interests. It allows you to show up as a good person, the good person you are.

• You are your best guide: No matter where you are, or how you show up, I believe you are whole, capable, and resourceful and, with support, are the best guide to your own healing. That doesn’t mean you have to have the answers - that’s why you’ve come to coaching - but it does mean that you’re the boss on what matters and why, what’s working, where you want to go, and - of the many paths we an take - how you want to get there.

• I’ll meet you where you are: Right in the mess, the blank stare of indecision, with whatever you’ve got (or don’t), without judgment. Just show up, committed to change and doing the work.

• Evidence-guided, but not evidence-limited: We’re going to use tools science has rigorously tested and validated:

  • Neuroscience including the latest understanding of neurodivergence

  • Strengths-based change (positive psychology and appreciative inquiry)

  • Somatic science

  • Nutrition and exercise science (with curiosity and out shame or judgment - you can keep your chocolate!)

  • “Weathering” and the effect of accumulated stress, particularly for folks of color, on the body

  • The effects of trauma on the body and cognition

    And we’re also going to use your own wisdom, experience, and body signals to figure out what works in your life, right now.

• Body Awareness: Research has shown that much of what we think of as the mind - our thoughts, feelings, the “facts” we know - is actually the mind making sense of body signals.

  We’ll use evidence-based somatic awareness tools to get clear on what your mind might cloud or miss.

• Trauma-informed: Many of the behaviors that bring us to burnout can be trauma responses (whether we know we’ve experienced trauma or not):

  • People pleasing

  • Conflict avoidance

  • Hyper independence

  • Perfectionism

  • Passive-aggressiveness

  • Co-dependence

  • Anxiety

  • Reflexively prioritizing others over your own needs

  • Dissociation / “checking out”

  • Hypervigilance for threat, including scanning for signs in other people’s behaviors and emotions

  These are coping mechanisms learned early on to survive overwhelming experiences. They’re still with you and are holding you back from living a life of sustainable joy.

  No need to disclose, no need to dive in, unless you want. Just know that we’ll move at a pace your nervous system can sustain, I’ll seek consent at each step, and I’ll bring an understanding of how trauma affects the brain, and body, to craft a tailored recovery plan for you.

• You-led growth: Our 1-hour coaching sessions will introduce big shifts to your life and teach you tools to get out of burnout - but the real work of coaching happens in the other 167 hours of the week as you put in the reps.

I had been informally coaching and guiding folks for years before I decided to make it a formal practice. Because, after leading myself through profound changes, I learned that my calling - what I am meant to do in this world - is to share these lessons beyond me.

Yes, I’ve lived the burnout life, and pulled myself up and out, for good. I’ve learned skills and tools that allow me to spot and swap out the earliest burnout signs for healthier behaviors so it doesn’t take hold.

With help from therapists, coaches, and my trusted people, I’ve healed - and am healing - what keeps me stuck, down to the deepest root-level behaviors.

And I’ve done that across my adult life stages - dependent-less full time professional and part time grad student + athlete all the way through full time director-level leader, while also being a double overtime parent of twins and committed basement lifter with a full social life.

But you may be interested in some other qualifications:

• Almost 20 years experience leading sustainable change at the organization and community levels through teams - team whose culture is healthy, sustainable contribution and mutual support.

• Appreciation for the complex and complete: I’ve worked from every angle of our healthcare system: clinical/provider, state government, legislative and policy, major insurance carrier, academic / research, among others. A holistic understanding of this enormously complex system helps me understand complex systems at every level - including the most complex: humans and their individual worlds.

• Data nerd with a heart: My career has centered on how data can open people’s hearts to change that sticks.

  I found my success when I followed this surprising truth: People make decisions first with their body, then their emotions, and then finally their intellectual minds, looking to data to back up the story their body knows is right for them.

  But most people don’t know that. They believe they are objective, “the data don’t lie!” deciders.

  That fine - I just meet folks where they are and help them make the best decisions for what they truly value, just as I’ll do with you.

• Formally trained, and forever training: My number one value is growth and learning, and I’m continuously building my practice with formal, intensive training by pursuing credentialing with the International Coaching Federation (ICF).

Hopefully, my values and approach, my qualifications, my energy and personality that come through the page have you saying, “Hell yeah, I’m ready for this, let’s go.”

But maybe not. It’s not for everyone, and that’s okay.

Specifically, it’s not for you if:

• You are comfortable where you are, even if it’s not great. Sometimes the pain of the present - and the pull of what could be - just isn’t enough for us to leave behind safety, even if safety sometimes sucks.

  And when that changes, I’ll still be here.

• You aren’t ready for feedback. My style is warm, empathetic, and strengths-based - and my job is to disrupt the patterns that are keeping you stuck.

  It will always be kind, it will always be from love, but if I’m doing my job well, it will often be uncomfortable.

• You’re stuck in victim mentality: Someone or something else is responsible for your pain, they are to blame for your actions, and nothing will get better until they or it changes.

  It’s not a workable mentality in coaching, in building the self-awareness needed to find sustainable joy. If you’re stuck here, that’s okay - therapy, not coaching, is probably the right next step for you.

• You want someone to fix you: I know, this is confusing. I’m a coach offering to help you escape burnout, for good - isn’t that the same thing as fixing you?

  No, very much not. I’m here to be your informed mirror and reflect back to you what you might not be able to see; to be your demolition buddy and help you clear away the junk you’ve normalized and be your co-conspirator to build your own compelling vision of the future.

  I’ll share tools with you. I’ll question your assumptions, I’ll ask you hard questions your friends don’t ask. I’ll breathe with you through tears.

  But I will not, and cannot, fix you.

  Coaching is a LOT of inner work. And where we’re going in not “perfect”, it’s “self-aware” - Self. Aware.

  Not “Kim-aware”.

  You, aware of you. You monitoring your slides, your gains, your tells. You noticing the moment to moment body needs and signals. You trusting you.

  You got this. But only you can got this.